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Public Assistance In 2011 Is Charles Dickens’ Worst Nightmare

When you first meet Janine, your overall impression is of softness – she speaks clearly in modulated Midwestern tones, her hair is a honey-colored cloud, and she has the kind of posture your Grandmother yelled at you for not having.  Her casual clothes are sweet and feminine.  Today she has on a denim skirt on which she hand-stitched a few tiny flowers, and a gauzy white eyelet blouse more befitting a high school sophomore than the 43 year old medical secretary she once was.  And she’ll talk about that to me today, while she tells me all about what it’s like to be on public assistance for the first time in her life.

There’s the shame, of course, and we’ll get to that.  But first, more about Janine. She moved to New York to follow a man.  He was a contractor redesigning the billing system in the Midwestern hospital where Janine worked, and by their third date she was smitten. Continue reading

Ask-A-Nurse: Insurance Hell

So I started writing a column about some of the things you need to know getting the most out of your medical care, but after discussion with a few of you, I found that the questions I was answering weren’t really the ones you were asking.  So I will start by answering a bit more in depth, some of the issues that have come up.  Please share any knowledge you have in the comments and ask more questions. Continue reading

Is Searching for a Job the New First Day of High School?! Yikes!

The jobless rate in this country is abysmal. Currently stuck at 9 percent, many Americans who find themselves unemployed in an unstable economy are desperate for the types of work many wouldn’t consider in a flourishing financial landscape. For some, finding full-time work is a luxury, since many companies have downsized, laid off staff, or have fluctuated between hiring freezes, furloughs, and other personnel cutbacks.

It would seem finding a job has numerous roadblocks. What makes things harder?

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Betty Crocker And The Isle Of Fire

Fire Island, for those who don’t know, is a barrier island off the South Shore of Long Island that has evolved from a tiny summer community to a combination Gay Mecca / Family Circus.  And away we go!

This narrow strip of land is awash in Gay History, and sun-spangled waves, and lovely white sand beaches.  There are several communities here, but I will focus on the two I visited most recently: Cherry Grove and The Pines.

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Crass Advice: Daisy Sage Says

Tell Daisy all about it, darling.

As I have mentioned before, Bots has kindly suggested that I cross post blog entries from www.daisysagesays.wordpress.com from time to time. Here is our most recent entry.:

Dear friends,

Hurrah! Just when I was thinking I’d better come up with some fake reader questions; (For instance, fake someone would write in and ask  anxiously if they really have to stop wearing their white patent leather pants after Labor Day. My fake response would be: “Why did you wear them before Labor Day?  And more importantly how?”) we have been sent our first real, actual reader advice request!

This comes to us from our friend who goes by the Interwebz name of Turdhurdler. Continue reading

Banning Children From Public Places Is A Thing. A Good Thing.

A perfect story for our young and childless Crasstalkers.

There is a new wave of DINK – double income, no kids.  And with this wave comes restrictions on when or even an outright banning on children allowed at restaurants, grocery stores, and first-class seats in airlines. You may be surprised to hear this, but I am all for it.

I remember going to Jean Georges about seven years ago and shocked that two parents thought it was a good idea to bring their 6 year old to eat with them there. They gave their daughter some sort of hand-held game to keep her occupied and quiet, an elementary school pacifier. That child had no more reason to be there than a kitten. Not appropriate. Continue reading