Daily Archives: December 13, 2010

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Gawker Dating, Part I: Your Hair Is So Soft

It was only a matter of time, really. Put together thousands of Internet people who only like talking to other Internet people and eventually everyone was bound to want to sleep with each other. Enter #GawkerDating, a portal to the weird wide world of weird wide people; some of whom sound awesome, some of whom sound terrifying, and all of whom haven’t seen someone naked in a while. Continue reading

Rompies with Ruby

Ruby is very excited to bring to the world her occasional column, “Rompies with Ruby.”  She will highlight stellar rompies, exciting rompies, remarkable rompies, or just regular rompies.

This picture is from yesterday’s rompies along the Merced River.  It was hot and gorgeous.  She met two dogs, barked at mountain bikers, lollygagged in the river for coolin’s and generally had a good time.

Remember folks, treats are for doggies!

PS – Shout out to the War Dog!!  Woof woof Dawg!

Crass Parenting: Babies by the Book

When we were expecting our first child, my husband read several books about parenting. He was worried that he didn’t know much about babies. He did, however, know a lot about research so he put those skills to work.

After many hours of reading, he concluded that parenting books are of no help whatsoever. Here is the problem, as he described it to me:

If you want to engage in an exercise in futility, take a book by Doctor Sears, famous for his attachment parenting theories, and compare it to a book by Doctor Buckman and Gary Ezzo, famous for their Babywise method. Read a chapter on a specific topic in one book, and then read the corresponding chapter in the other. The differences in their advice will drive you insane.

I would like to hear a debate between these two self-proclaimed experts. I think it would go something like this:

Moderator: Let’s start with feeding:

Buckman: Put him on a schedule so he’ll sleep through the night

Sears: Feed him on demand because babies know when they’re hungry.

Buckham: Babies who are fed on demand become fussy and will never sleep well.

Sears: Babies who are not fed on demand become dehydrated and malnourished.

Buckman: You’re spoiling the baby

Sears: You’re trying to starve the baby

Buckman: Now you’re being melodramatic

Sears: That’s because you’re being a baby nazi

Moderator: Alright, that deteriorated fast. Let’s try a more neutral topic, like co-sleeping

Sears: I recommend a family bed. Denying the child attention will make him anxious which will screw him up for life.

Buckman: You shouldn’t let the baby into the adults’ bed. Learn to recognize the baby’s cries and let him cry we should learn to recognize his cries and let him cry himself to sleep if he doesn’t sound agitated. To give him too much attention will make him needy, which will screw him up for life.

Sears: That baby will have an anxiety disorder and feel unloved.

Buckman: Oh yeah? Well, the baby in the family bed will grow up to be a huge p….

Moderator: Alright, let’s move on. How about a parental date night?

Buckman: Parents creating a “date night,” a time to leave the kid with someone else and reconnect as a couple.

Sears:  I strongly disagree. Parents should  wear the child in a sling and take him everywhere they go for the first two years of the child’s life.

Buckman: That’s insane. Parents to spend at least 15 minutes each night talking solely to each other, ignoring the child so that they can connect as a couple. It’s important to show the child that the parents have a strong marriage so the child understands his role in the family.

Sears:  In some primitive cultures, the child doesn’t even touch the ground until he’s two-years-old, at which time they have a historic “ground breaking ceremony,” declaring the child ready to touch the ground. Systems like this make our children feel loved and safe, which will stop us from screwing them up for life.

Buckman: That’s the craziest piece of hippie nonsense I’ve ever heard. Children should not be running the family life. Parents need time alone or they’ll go insane.

Sears: Children are equal members of the family. You want to run the family like a military camp. Do you even like children?

Moderator: Okay, let’s talking about sleeping. Lots of parents worry about getting the child to sleep.

Sears: If your child has trouble sleeping, try putting him in a car seat on top of a running clothes dryer or rocking him to sleep.

Buckman: No, don’t do that. Ever. It’s dangerous to put a baby on a clothes dryer. If you rock the baby to sleep, it will become dependent on rocking to get to sleep.

Sears: So it’s wrong to rock a baby to sleep? Is that what you’re saying?

Buckman: I’m saying that babies need to learn to fall asleep on their own. You can’t rock to them to sleep every time.

Sears: Oh, I see. Just let them scream until they pass out. That’s the loving way to handle it. Why don’t you just let them stay in the crib all day and just throw them a ham bone every once in a while?

Buckman: I suppose you want to run around naked in a field with the baby in a sling singing songs about nature? That’s how you’d like to raise a baby, you crazy hippie.

Moderator: Guys, we’re just trying to help out the parents.

Buckman: I can’t talk to him. He called me a baby nazi.

Sears: You called me a hippie.

Moderator:  That’s IT! I have had enough of this! If you two doctors don’t stop fighting, I’m going send both of you to time out.

I think this is an overly optimistic view of how said debate would go.

The Rise And (Hopeful) Fall Of Gawker

(crossposted from MobileLocalSocial)

Before you tear me apart for a sensationalist title, let me explain.

I do not think that Gawker Media, the multimillion dollar blogging corporation, will fall.  As a general rule, I do not second-guess the business strategies of multi-million dollar companies.  However, the bloom is definitely off the rose as far as Gawker’s standing in the public eye is concerned.

Fair disclosure: For over four years, I have been a commenter on Gawker blogs, most notably on Gizmodo.

I remember when Gizmodo pranked CES.  Which was a pretty bad thing considering that the prank consisted of a Gizmodo blogger screwing with companies’ presentations at a trade show.  The videographer responsible was not fired and still works quite happily under Gawker’s main imprint.

This year, as with every year, Gawker blogs have found themselves in hot water for their practices.  Gawker itself received a takedown notice and the rather disingenuous ire of Facebook celebrity, reality tv show host, and author Sarah Palin for printed large excerpts of one of her books.  But the Gawker story that really took the cake was “iPhone4gate,” in which Gawker/Gizmodo paid $5,000 for a working prototype of the iPhone 4, destroyed it through disassembly, and then wrote about it at length, before sending it back to Apple, Inc.  Whether this was legal I will not opine.

I do think that it was not a major departure from established journalism practices.  Gawker’s bounties for tips and the like are well known and, frankly, paying $5,000 for the iPhone 4 is no different than paying $5,000 to a paparazzo for naked photos of Insert Hollywood Starlet Of Little To Middling Talent.  It was a major development for Gizmodo and got Jason Chen’s face on many news segments.

It also marked a turning point for Gizmodo’s writing and authorship in my opinion as a blog historian of Gizmodo.  For a goodly amount of time, Gizmodo had been a tech news site in the “traditional” sense of the word.  It featured specs, photos, tear-downs and reviews of upcoming consumer electronics.  It favored the big companies – Apple, Microsoft, Google, Motorola, etc. – but it still had a lot of bleeding edge information about the tech world.  To read it today, one would not recognize it.

Last month, Joel Johnson, whose personality tends to raise hackles with the readership, wrote an entire post telling the commentariat in no uncertain terms that they could go to hell (actually, his language was far more harsh than that).  Again, fair disclosure: I am not a fan of Mr. Johnson, or his pretentious writing which, frankly comes across as preening, and was banned for openly criticizing him.  Since then, I tend not to comment on Gizmodo.  Several weeks later, Mr. Johnson had angered some other readers and some hacking was their retaliation.  Mr. Johnson’s response was to tell commenters to all f**k off.  It was petulant, counterproductive, and off-putting.

At present, there is an article about a wooden roller coaster someone built in their backyard.  There’s a posting about a YouTube video shot by putting a camera around a cat’s neck.  There’s a story about a girl who got trapped in an arcade claw machine.  There’s a YouTube video about multiplication tables in Japan.  In contrast, Engadget (Gizmodo’s main competitor) has stories about a 100-disc Blu-Ray changer, a useful hack for a portable WiMAX device, Kindle sales data, several upcoming Android handsets, and stories about tablet computers not called the iPad and about patent cases and Senate legislation about technology.

In short, Gizmodo is now US Weekly to Engadget’s Economist.  The Economist has better writing and better serves its readers but US Weekly sells more because it just goes for the low-hanging fruit.

Putting this in perspective, this last week really brought to the fore how the sea change is a real thing and not the product of selective perception.  Last week, Google announced the Chrome laptop.  Engadget liveblogged the event with a dizzying gallery of photos and ample coverage of all the details.  Gizmodo didn’t even attend.  Instead, they posted about an ice hotel decked out like Tron and then wrote about the laptop later on.

Finally, capping out the fiasco was a massive security breach of Gawker’s servers in which all accounts – user, editor, and commenter – were compromised.  The hackers gained access to thousands upon thousands of passwords.  My password was on the list compromised but hackers were not able to decipher the password (which has since been changed).  Gawker had known about the flaws in its securities for months.  In one internal chat exchange, Hamilton Nolan remarked about the hacking of accounts, saying if it was editor accounts, “that’s a problem”, if just the commenters, then it was “unimportant.”  This was reported far and wide.  NPR mentioned the hacking of Gawker accounts on its “Morning Edition” program.  Additionally, Forbes magazine wrote a lengthy detailed piece on its blog, including a screencap of the chat in which Mr. Nolan called the breach of commenter accounts “unimportant.”

For their part, Gawker sites are now having to cover themselves as a story.  Several have had to try to assure readers that they aren’t considered “peasants” by the editors.  While I’m sure that Jason Chen and Kat Hannaford don’t consider the commentariat to be peasants, as someone who was banned by a Gizmodo editor (notorious blowhard Joel Johnson) for disagreeing with him, rote assurances don’t ring true with me.  UPDATE: I WAS BANNED FROM GIZMODO FOR POSTING A REMINDER THAT JOEL JOHNSON WROTE AN ENTIRE FEATURE DEVOTED TO INSULTING THE COMMENTERS.

In the meantime, Gawker sites are to launch a massive redesign next month.  This may be too little too late.  As it is, the software code is on the internet to be compromised, the site itself at present loads somewhat slowly because of all of the scripts embedded in it, and the content, quite frankly, is fairly piss poor.  If the new Gawker empire to be feature the crown jewel of Gizmodo writing more three-sentence stories about jackasses riding skis while being towed behind a truck (another story Gizmodo ran instead of covering the Google Chrome event), then it will lose its title as a place to go for tech news.

And that’s where Gawker stands: as a blog network that is vicious, vindictive, and populated by people who, at best, scoff at their readership and, at worst, are openly hostile to them.

As one who used to post between ten and twenty comments a day on Gizmodo, I cannot say that I will continue to comment on Gizmodo (or Gawker) in the future.  There’s not much to say about a two-sentence story about Android-themed wedding cakes.

Love, luck, and lollipops,

OMG! Ponies!

Baking with Stabby: Basic croissant recipe

Attention! I will start my batch of these bad boys on Tuesday, December 21, mid-morning PST avec live-blog.

Please note that the amounts may vary slightly on the baking day-of due to humidity, but have all this on hand. Also, I’ll be live-blogging this with pics so you can see when I modify, why, and where.

DOUGH
1.5lb milk / 680g lait
1 tsp dry yeast / Cuillère à café levure boulangere
2 lbs flour / 900g farine
5 oz sugar / 150g sucre
salt / sel

20oz butter / 600g beurre – I use the Irish butter, Kerry Gold I think it is.

If you are making pain au chocolate:
bittersweet chocolate / couverture/nutella

I’m also using 1c of BiL’s home made pumpkin pie filling

EGG WASH
1 egg, 2 yolks / 1 oeuf, 2 jaunes
water, eau

First Step:
combine warm milk with yeast – set aside
mix flour with salt and sugar
add milk and stir with a wooden spoon enough to combine, do not overwork
wrap dough in plastic and refrigerate for 8 hours

Second Step
Cut butter into 8 pieces, pound thin, refrigerate
Roll half of the dough into a rectangle on a floured counter.
Incorporate half of the butter with one single turn and two double turns
wrap in plastic, refrigerate overnight, repeat with the second half of dough and butter

Third Step
Roll half of each package to form a rectangle 3mm thick. Cut triangles for croissants and rectangles for pain au chocolat.
Form the croissants, brush with eggwash, let proof until risen, bake at 375F for 12 to 15 minutes.

A bientot!

AIDS PSA: Does Fear Work?

I have very mixed feelings about this new HIV/AIDS PSA from the NYC Department of Health (warning: nsfw unless you work in an anal cancer research lab):
HIV PSA

A lot of folks are up in arms about how the ad stigmatizes people living with HIV. Fear campaigns don’t actually encourage testing or prevention, they assert (without evidence).

I feel like there’s a generational disconnect, though, because while people over 35 or so probably have some memory of the worst years of the epidemic, very young guys do not. At all. The only message young gay guys have heard is about how AIDS is a manageable illness. But that’s not the whole story. The fact is, young gays are not using protection because they don’t think AIDS is a big deal, hence the HIV transmission rates for very young guys are shockingly high (such as an estimated 40% of young African-American men who have sex with men in NYC infected with HIV).

What do you think? Overkill? It reminds me of the cigarette ads with disgusting photos of cancerous lungs. Which actually do work, with me at least. If by work you mean nauseate.

How to start commenting on #Crasstalk

Ok, dogs and poodles (shout out to the 2 Live Stews), gather round. If you’re having trouble posting comments or want to start posting comments on Crasstalk, here’s how you do it.

Crasstalk uses a commenting system called IntenseDebate. It’s not necessarily perfect, but it’s very nice. Many, many sites also use the same system. For example, Wonkette has been using ID for the past year or two and it’s believed that their commentariat is decisively winning the internet war against the Paultards, Tea Partiers, PUMAs, RedStaters, SkoalRebel and other crazies.

So how do I get started?

To post comments here you MUST create an IntenseDebate account. Using IntenseDebate is easy once you’re set up with a new account.

Here’s how to create a new IntenseDebate account.

Note: IntenseDebate accounts have absolutely NOTHING to do with WordPress accounts. The WordPress author accounts we use here on the site are NOT the same as WordPress.com accounts. So even if Botswana has approved you as an author, you STILL have to create a brand new IntenseDebate account.

IntenseDebate accounts are used across any site that uses the ID commenting system. This is pretty neat. It means you can go over to, say, Wonkette and post a comment with your same exact profile/avatar. The one downside is that if your name is fairly common or very long, you’ll have to tweak it. Don’t worry if it tells you your desired user name is already taken. Just try putting in an underscore or writing it slightly differently.

If you have any issues using IntenseDebate, please go read their support site.

Also, I made changes to the About page, so if you’re curious about getting an author account, go there.

Appetite for #Crasstalk liveblogs

"The Sinking Ship"

Willkommen, bienvenue, welcome, fellow #crasstalkers. Denton’s latest fiasco has made me reconsider my longstanding desire to leave Gawker permanently. The main pages have become a wasteland and most of my favorite commenters are already over here.

The only thing I’d really miss about Gawker is the liveblogs of Top Chef and Project Runway, so I was thinking (regrets to Mr. Hippity) of starting up our own Liveblogs over here.

Is this something that would interest people? If so please let me know in the comments and I’ll let the brain fluids start gestating some liveblog ideas.