I’ve lost 110 pounds. Minus 60, plus 40, minus 50 is the rough outline of my transformation. FYI, in my universe, the second time’s cause I ain’t gaining weight again. Continue reading
Sex and Relationships
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Askmen.com surveyed 70,000 men who claimed they would ditch a partner who gained too much weight. Only 20% of women made that same claim via Cosmopolitan, Askmen.com‘s sister site. Shocker! Continue reading
You know you’ve hit rock bottom when you can’t stop crying, but you really live on the bottom when you can’t stop crying even to pee. I’m currently going through a break up after a 4 year relationship. Here are some things I’ve learned: Continue reading
I had coffee the other day with a friend I kind of hate.
Yes, yes, it’s been pointed out to me: we may have to discuss my understanding of the word “friend”. I still haven’t fully figured out why, and have often lamented this fact, but for some reason, for my entire life, I’ve always had one friend that I actually–truth be told–despise. When I mention this to people, “You know how you always have that one friend you can’t stand?”, they stare, blankly. Clearly, this isn’t a common phenomenon. We do have to discuss my understanding of the word “friend”. Continue reading
I’m sure you’ve heard or come across people who sit there and talk about how the Bible condemns homosexuality. I’m here to tell you that those folks are . . . misguided at best. Some of them are just plan full of it, but I’d like to think that most of them just haven’t actually looked it up. I’d really like to think that they’ve just followed what other people have told them, like so many other popular culture things in America. So, hopefully this will be a quick(ish) guide to what the Bible really says about homosexuality. Continue reading
This is America, 2011. We have our first mixed-race president. There are actual commercials now which feature interracial couples. But people are still really stupid when it comes to race relations, particularly the kind of relations where you are trying to get into someone else’s pants.
Since I live in an extremely diverse neighborhood, in an extremely diverse city, and am pretty ambiguously ethnic, as well as being totally hot (and modest!), I’ve had my fair share of amazingly creepy, and sometimes just slightly racist pick-up lines thrown at me. I’m sure some of the more attractive of you have experienced the same. So let’s break a few of the more common lines down and analyze them. Continue reading
My recent absence these past two weeks from Crassland, was not by choice…You see, I had to say good bye to an old friend. I’ve spent the last fortnight packing up and cleaning my way out of the place I lovingly transformed into and called home for the past ten years.
As I cleaned every nook and cranny for the excited new and imminent owners, I spent some time reflecting on the untold hours of sweat-equity I spent making this once antiseptic retirees’ domicile into an inviting destination for the spontaneous laughs of numerous dinner guests and party-goers, and memories worth cherishing, for me, for a lifetime. Continue reading
The recent court battle over marriage equality in New York State reminded me of the battle for civil unions in Vermont. In the summer of 2000, the year that civil unions passed, my husband and I had just opened up a store in the northern part of Vermont. And the civil union debate wasn’t even a debate, it was just one-sided yelling.Just to clear up any misinformation – Vermont is not over-run with free-love hippie beet farmers who count Buddha beads while they meditate over which they love more, pot or homosexuals. In fact, Vermont is a delightfully diverse state filled with thoughtful and deliberative people and, then, some others…not so much. Continue reading
So I hear New York State passed some law or something? I woke up this morning to find Crasstalk excitedly celebrating the passage of marriage equality in New York, and deservedly so. (Don’t get too excited though, New York gays. The associated taxes and fees that Albany will inevitably add to applying for a marriage license may cause you to reconsider your feelings on getting married there. You might be able to be legally married now, but it’s still New York after all. Everything is treated as an opportunity to generate new tax revenues.) Continue reading